5. Almost done! Now give yourself a quick supportive pep talk. A little self compassionate goes a long way. It’s easy to get stuck in self loathing and negative self-talk. Somehow, our brains loves to focus on the negative and ignore the positive, especially in ourselves. So think of one thing that’s causing you stress, anxiety or even shame and practice a little self-love. My favorite way of envisioning this is imagining how a loving, supportive friend would respond to the self criticism. For example, if we’re mad at ourselves for losing our temper with our kids, think about how you would respond if a friend told you about it. A supportive friend would give so much compassion and empathy, “You had such a hard day, give yourself a break! I lose it all the time too, no one’s perfect!”. Also, I like this self-compassion test to see how you’re doing with this.
6. Lastly, thank yourself for taking the time to focus on yourself and your happiness. You deserve it.
Have any tips for an instant uptick in mood and happiness? Ya know, besides a puppy running into the room?
(Images here of Henry, Edie, and Dot from some portraits I’m working on)