I still can’t believe that I have three children. It seems like yesterday that we were struggling getting pregnant with our second, unsure if we were going to be able to grow our family. Now we’re a full family of five which is so fun, but it does feels like a total circus at times! I’ve been through newborns three times now, yet I’m still texting my girlfriends daily trying to get their advice on the latest baffling phase. Although I still feel a little clueless at time, there are a few things I’ve learned along the way that I wish someone would have told me before. Today I’m working with Seventh Generation to share a few of those bits of advice for any new moms and moms to be out there…
1. Nursing kills at first. Yes, your body is made to feed this sweet newborn but it’s not a perfect system. I wish someone would have told me that nursing hurts for about 10 days (like OMG ouch ouch ouch for the first few seconds), but your body toughens up and soon your bionic nipples will appear!!! Just hang in there. Nursing is so convenient and so good if you can make it work. But it’s not easy for everyone. Oversupply, undersupply, clogged ducts, mastitis. I’ve had it all. It’s not as simple as you might have though but isn’t it amazing that you can feed you baby with your own body?!? More about the realities of nursing with a few different mom’s experiences on this post.
2. You don’t need half of the clothes you’re buying. It’s hard to not buy full closest of the sweetest outfits but they need so little! Onesies and footed pjs are about it for the first few months. Save your money on those cute dresses you’re eyeing until they’re walking. Then you don’t have to worry about those adorable dresses being dragged across the floor. And there is nothing cuter than a 18 month old wobbling around in a sweet dress.

3 Find a group of like-minded moms and start a group text. I can’t tell you how often I group text my girlfriends looking for pieces of advice about various baby-related topics, favorite products, or even when I’m just having the worst day and need a little pick me up. Or sometimes random, funny stuff like surprise pictures of nursing boobs cleavage! Because it’s still shocking the 3rd time around and there are only so many you can send your partner!
but here’s the thing…

6. Sometimes you need to hide out in the bathroom for a moment of peace. It’s a hard job and it’s a rewarding one but it’s not easy. Sometimes you’ll be frustrated and annoyed at the world, wishing for just a moment of peace. Taking time for yourself is hard but so important! Maybe it’s a pilates class or a date night every week with your partner. I wish someone would have told me that it’s totally okay to close that door of the bathroom and give yourself a little pep talk while you paint your toe nails (try to ignore the toddler banging on the door demanding goldfish).

I asked my two assistant editors Ashley and Erica to share what they wish they had known before they had babies too. Here’s what they said…
8. The power of white noise. If your baby is fussy and won’t calm down turn on the faucet or a white noise app. Works every time! -Ashley
9. You might not fall in love with your baby instantly. I had always heard mothers talk about the instant connection they had with their newborn baby right after birth. It was something I look forward to and felt instantly with my first born. With my second baby I didn’t have that instant love and connection and I felt so guilty. After a few weeks I felt my love and connection with my second born blossom. I feel incredibly bonded to her now, it just took a little longer than I expected. – Ashley

Thanks to Seventh Generation for sponsoring this post and making baby care, laundry, and cleaning products that we love.
Love what you said about embracing the season! It’s so easy to compare ourselves to what we were/did before and what we think we should be able to do. I have to remind myself that my babies will be grown before I know it and just enjoy spending all our time together now! Thanks for the encouragement!
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I really appreciate what Ashley said! I am a doula and I always warn expectant mothers about this, to give themselves a break if they don’t fall instantly in love with their new baby. Your body has just been through hell no matter how you birth, and it can take some time to catch your breath and come back from that. I feel like it’s an unfair expectation and women shouldn’t feel guilty if it takes a few days to bond. Such a good thing to open up with other mothers about.
I’m really debating a third. Every single day, I fully embrace having or not having a third!! I loved this. Thank you for sharing. It’s so honest. 🙂
I love reading your insights about being a mom. I’m sure I need to enjoy this season more, and your words were the right reminder. Thank you.
Where is your dress from? Love it!
i was wondering the same thing too!!
Hey! My dress is from an etsy shop called Not Perfect Linen 🙂
It’s from an etsy shop called Not Perfect Linen 🙂
About to have my second and have 2 older step children. I am pretty sure that your middle point about not beating yourself up about the dialed in moms or just bring a mom in general is the most important thing for us all to remember. So hard when you see people who seem to have it all together! Anyway, thanks for the encouragement today!
It’s easier said than done though!! I’m guilty of it all the time