Stress seems to have kicked into high gear for everyone now that school is in session…
Everything from new schools and classroom dynamics, social expectations and disappointments, increased responsibility and school work, not to mention exhaustion and new routines. All that adds up to some serious amount of emotional strain for both kids and their parents and it’s different today than it was growing up. Many conversations I’ve had with other mothers in recent weeks have been laced with this common thread of school stress and I’ve been thinking a lot about it.
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This post couldn’t have come at a better time, seriously. My 3 daughters started 6th, 3rd and Kindergarten two+ weeks ago. Everyone SEEMS to be adjusting ok but I’ve seen some aggressive behavior from my 5 year old that I’m trying to nip in the bud. She absolutely LOVES school but my guess is, she’s bottling up some emotions during the day because she doesn’t want to disappoint her teacher, and she’s letting them all out when she gets home (to her Grandpa’s house first). She shares a very small room with her 8 year old sister and we have a small house, but I think I can carve out a space in our master bedroom that might be a good “quiet spot” for her. I think she would really love picking out items to put in a basket that’s just for her. These are really great tips, some I’ve heard before and others that are new. As parents, we never stop learning either! Thank you.
Thanks Jeanne, such kind words. Thank you! Just update + tip: we’ve had issues with the 2 yr old getting into her special things so I ordered her a chest (with a lock!) so it’ll really be private just for her. Hoping it’ll still fit under the bed!
Back to school stress seems not affect my kids much, they only hate the homework 🙂 Thank you for the helpful post!
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Glad to hear it hasn’t been too bad at your home. Homework though is the WORST
Great post! Great blog! Yes, back to school stress exists but I am not sure if competence is the anchor for intrinsic motivation or at the end it creates more problems and more stress to our kids.
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Great tip, thanks i’ll check it out
The gift of failure is so good! I homeschool my two older kids so it feels harder to let them fail because their failure hugely impacts my own time. But it’s so important.
My middle daughter had a really hard time with kindergarten (in public school). She had a stomach every day from stress and huge meltdowns very often. Change is harder on some souls than others.
I need to remember the you can feel hurt and any but can’t hurt others idea.
Ooh poor baby with stomach aches! These kids are going through so much, I feel for them but it’s also super stressful for everyone
Thank you for sharing this. It was really helpful.
Back to school stress is totally real! We’ve been helping our son with deep breaths for a few years now and I find that’s the best way for us to slow down a tantrum quickly!
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That’s so great you already have a tool he knows and can use!
Check out the book Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking by Susan Cain written by an introvert with the aim of helping extroverts understand how we work! There’s an excellent chapter on relationships between extroverted parents and introverted children.
Awesome, thank you!
Navigating back to school stress sounds like a handful, but you really seem to be handling it! 🙂
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