• Feeling like a Tiger

    One of the hardest things about being a parent is dealing with those big emotions that young children have (I guess we all have them but learn to control). Whether it’s your child’s big emotions or another child’s big emotions that are affecting your child (the hardest!). I remember the first time I witnessed a slightly older child bullying Henry at the playground I kind of flipped out, I even scolded the other child sharply- okay, so not my best moment, I agree. It wasn’t even something big, I think they pushed him aside and said only big kids were allowed on the tall slide.

    But I remember later thinking about it and wondering what Henry was feeling when the little bullying incident happened and regretting that I hadn’t talked about it with him about it in the moment-I was too focused on disciplining the other child.

    While Christmas shopping I found a really cute journaling book that helps kids to talk about emotions and thoughts that we bought Henry to start at the new year. It’s called Q & A a Day for Kids: A Three-Year Journal and each day there’s a question you askĀ  your child (some are funny, some are serious, some are imaginative), and the child, or yourself writes the their answer. I like to write exactly what Henry says at this age because he phrases things in such a cute way and I want to remember exactly how he talked.

    I think because it’s so official (an ‘interview’ we call it) that Henry really loves it. I’m hoping that he also likes it because it makes him feel important, that his thoughts and feelings are significant enough to write down and record.

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    It’s also hilarious to read! Yesterday Henry and I read through his responses to the last two weeks of questions and he was laughing his head off. He didn’t even remember feeling like a tiger- being mad at me about ‘breaking the lego thing’, or when he was called a ‘poo poo head’ at school. He laughed at the ‘poo poo head’ line yesterday, yet at the time it was a very serious response. I love that it helps kids understand how momentary our emotions can be, that we may be so angry in one moment and then not remember at all, or even laugh about it the next day.

    Do you have a journaling book like this that you’ve enjoyed doing with your kids? Maggie Mason once made a really sweet emotions book with pictures of her son feeling different things which I thought was such a great idea.

    Or, back to the original issue, how do you help your kid deal with bullying and/or their emotional response to it?

      
  • 11 comments

    1. Week 03 | bye bye charlie said… January 27, 2013 4:10 am

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    2. lei said… January 23, 2013 12:36 pm

      i love this! i have the grown-up version — i got it at anthropologie in 2011. (and i’m happy to say i’ve mostly kept up with it, and i’m now starting my third year!) i love that you made it an “interview.” i can definitely see kids loving that!

    3. Amanda said… January 21, 2013 7:53 am

      I got the adult version of this for my birthday, and i love it.
      I didn’t know they made it for kids, but it’s a great idea!

    4. Holly said… January 20, 2013 9:18 pm

      Saw this at chapters yesterday and gave it a flip through. What a great idea! I like that you can start young and have your child get into daily journaling (even if it’s not them writing it). I think it’s a great skill.
      I like the one for adults too. I’ve been thinking about getting it. Seems easy enough to write one line a day

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    6. petitegourmand said… January 17, 2013 7:19 am

      I love this…I am going to order one right away.

    7. sarah said… January 16, 2013 7:15 pm

      THis is adorable! I hope when I finally have kids cute things like this are around.

      Sar

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    8. Jessica said… January 16, 2013 5:12 pm

      I love this !

    9. Lisa Dillon said… January 16, 2013 12:21 pm

      Fantastic idea to encourage journal writing and talking about emotions.

    10. Miggy said… January 16, 2013 7:58 am

      That book is a great idea… I might have a hard time remembering to do it everyday, but maybe if we kept it at the dinner table.

      And about other kids… I think starting my mothering career in NYC made me a bit too eager to pounce. When you had tons of older kids running around the playground with no supervision, us toddler moms weren’t afraid to get a little loud and tell them to slow down and watch out for the other kids. Especially when they were running through the playground specifically made for little ones. These days I’m more reserved about it and try not to step in as much. I won’t always be there to fight their battles.

      • Liz Stanley said… January 16, 2013 8:44 am

        That’s interesting what you say about being a NYC mom and being more aggressive that way! As for the remembering part, it site on our kitchen table and we do it after we eat dinner- usually he takes longer than us so it’s perfect. We can still sit at the table and do the interview while he finishes up eating.

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